I try to see the positives in every situation.  This battle has brought me to where I am today: stronger, happier and more confident.   

My goal is to inspire parents who find themselves in similar situations.

Here are some random things about me…no rhyme or reason to the order:

  • I have two amazing little girls who are known as the “Minis”.
  • My dad gained custody of me when he was a teenager– and I was only 6 months old.  We grew up together.
  • I am addicted to coffee or it is addicted to me- haven’t figured out which is accurate.  It’s the only dysfunctional relationship that I allow in my life.
  • I’ve been an entrepreneur since the age of 14 when I started my first business.  I’ve lived in a million dollar home, drove fancy cars and lost it all.  I now live a happy but simple life and I’ve learned that “things” are not important nor do they make you happy.
  • I live in the happiest place on Earth according to Oprah Winfrey and Jenny McCarthy.
  • I work as an Independent Contractor doing PR, blogging and Social Media.
  • I have many “colors”– I’ve been known to jump up and dance on a table but will be in a board meeting at 8am sharp on Monday morning.  I am fun but responsible…all rolled into one 5’2″ little package.
  • I’ve have Multiple Sclerosis yet I only think about it once per month–during my treatment.  There are 29 or 30 other fabulous days of the month to focus on.
  • I am a hoarder (of inspirational quotes and phrases).

More about divorcing a Narcissist: Help!  I’m Divorcing a Narcissist by Karyl McBride, Ph.D.

Please join me on my journey!!!

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Email me at: Tina@thePRdiva.com                                                                                                                                           Snail Mail: Tina PO Box 123, San Luis Obispo, Ca 93406


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14 responses »

  1. I have read through random parts of your blog. All I can say is…wow. What a journey you have been on. I have known Narcissists just like you describe. They are so convincing and charming and manipulative….I’m glad for your sake that you are away from that.
    Peace to you

  2. Tina-I just discovered your blog. Thank you for sharing your amazing story. I haven’t read the entire thing yet but I am slowly going through the backstory to present. I almost began crying when I read the latest court story, so, so relieved that his overnight visitation was taken away and you were awarded physical and legal custody.

    I also have a blog about a very similar story, although I believe my ex to be a sociopath/psychopath and we split up in July of 2009 because of drug abuse and infidelity (although things were terrible before that). I was eight months pregnant. He now has supervised visitation and is fighting for more time.

    I would love to email you, but I understand privacy issues. I will leave you my email in case you want to contact me. My email is abugenig@hotmail.com. I recently changed my url because my ex found my blog as well.

    Here is my new link: http://littlestronger.blogspot.com/

    I also live in California.

    • My ex is also NPD and has been more successful in court than one would think! I read your story adn there are so many similarities–esp. that is got much worse oncei got pregnant, and how he goes around town trying to discredit me.

      Unexplainable behavior til I learned this was NPD behavior. The only thing that works is limit setting. The horrible things my children have been through!

  3. I found your blog on Bloggy Moms. I’ve read a few posts, and really empathize. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I didn’t have such a huge battle with my ex, thankfully; but of course every situation has its own downside. I blog to encourage moms in their faith. I hope you find something uplifting there for your journey. I’ll be checking back. I think it’s a wonderful idea to recount your journey, and very strengthening for others in the same situation.
    Blessings,
    Lisa

  4. Hi Lisa

    Your blog is so inspiring…! Thank you so much for sharing your personal journey with the rest of the world… At the moment, I am going through something very similar. I have three children and their dad has just told me that he is taking me to court for ‘everything’ (residency of the children primarily). I have one son who is only 7 and comes home from visits with his dad suicidal. I am at my wits end. He twists and distorts everything. I feel so tired and drained and teary. My counselor has said that my ‘x’ is so clever at manipulating everything, and you wonder sometimes if the truth will ever prevail!!! But I’ve been encouraged by your determination and your persistence. Did you represent yourself completely?

    Den

    • Thank you! Hang in there- it is overwhelming. I am a strong believer in good winning over evil and eventually…the truth will prevail. There are ups and downs and the unknown is the worst. Are you in California?

      Yes- I did represent myself the entire time. Good luck and big hugs coming your way!

      • Hi Lisa…

        I am actually in Australia, and am in the process of trying to get some legal representation. I just think you are amazing; not only to deal with your ‘x’ but to also represent yourself in a court situation… I’ve been through 5 mediation meetings (just the way we do things here in Australia) with my ‘x’, and every time I come out of one of those meetings, I feel as though my brain has been twisted and turned up-side-down and in-side-out with glowing stories, outright lies and distortion of events and accusations from his side. What I hear from him is in such contrast to what I see in reality!!! How did you stay so strong???

  5. Wow! I just came across your blog today. I am dealing with divorcing a narcissitc husband and in the midst of a very bitter and high conflict divorce. He refuses to take any blame himself, and is using our children as pawns. He’s accused me of some pretty horrible things, and finds ways to twist things back around on me which hopefully the custody evalutor can see right through! I haven’t made it through your entire blog, what I am reading so far I could have easily written myself…funny how similar these narcissits are. Looking forward to reading more of your blog and getting some more insight..

  6. Thanks for your open and honest sharing of your story. It helps many of us when we realize we are not the only one and it also helps us learn not to blame ourselves, which is something narcissists have a real gift for doing to us. I wonder if anyone every diagnosed Josh Powell. Would his children be here today if the courts had looked at him with a clear eye?

    • Unfortunately, the courts DID diagnose Josh Powell but he was still given visitation with his young children. The courts failed the Powell boys and they fail so many children every day. Something needs to change.

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