Turns out, there are actually businesses popping up who plan your divorce party such as the Divorce Party Planner. I don’t plan to celebrate to the point of needing a planner but it’s good to know that the entrepreneurial spirit is alive and well in the United States!
I tried to wrap my mind around WHY I was having such a hard time with the title. I didn’t want those around me to get the wrong impression. I care a lot about what people think- sometimes too much. Most people in my world have no idea what I’ve gone through in this process. I took the high road and chose not to speak publicly about the specifics of my divorce. The people in my life—“my people”….they know. They have been on the sidelines, in my court and sometimes in the trenches with me.
If I wasn’t already struggling with what others would think about my “Divorce Party”…I got an email which confirmed the outside thoughts. The subject line: Divorce Party? The message basically said, “I will not be able to attend your party. I hope you know that I think highly of you however, I must confess that I am disappointed to see that you are so publicly celebrating the loss of your marriage”.
I am not celebrating the loss of my marriage—BUT I am celebrating a new life. I am celebrating the end of a nightmare and the beginning of my new life. I have been through battle and I’m not naive enough to think that it’s over just because I have a piece of paper. I am celebrating the end of a huge court battle that was always on the forefront of my mind. This was a court battle that kept me up late at night with mounds of paperwork. A battle that I thought about day in and day out. I didn’t have an attorney to go to battle for me. I had me. It’s over and I am celebrating.
The milestones that I lived for had to do with the next court date—or the next filing deadline for the next court form. As much as I WANT to “live in the moment” and practice what I preach when it comes to enjoying life…it’s been impossible for me to do.
So…tonight I will celebrate this new life with my closest friends and my people from the trenches.